1. Flattery like you've never heard before--Psychopaths move extremely quickly. On the first date, he'll probably tell you that you are beautiful, intelligent and witty. He will play into every fantasy and insecurity you have. If you think you're fat, he will tell you how much he loves your body. If you think you're shy, he will laugh at every lame joke and tell you you should have been a comedian. This is called "love bombing." It's the phase he gets you hooked on, and it's the phase you will spend the next few months or years trying to get back once he shuts it off.
2. He is just like you--Psychopaths will try to convince you that you are soul mates. He loves all the things you love and you have all of the same interests. If you had a tough childhood, he will say something like, "We both had it rough. That's why we understand each other." If there's an obscure book you love, he will make sure he loves it too. What he's doing is called "mirroring." He has no real identity, so he sucks yours up and mirrors it back to you.
3. Pity plays--Pay careful attention to what a psychopath says on the first few dates about his exes and other people in his life. Is his ex girlfriend crazy and stalking him? Did another girlfriend rob him blind? Is his mother controlling and horrible? Does he seem like he's had a tough time with people, who always use and abandon him? Whatever he says about the other people in his life is pretty much exactly what he'll be saying about you at some point, so listen carefully.
4. Illnesses and injuries--Psychopaths absolutely love pity, so pay attention to how many illnesses and injuries he's had. Did he miraculously beat cancer but it could come back at any minute? Does he break his foot on your second date and has to cancel? (But strangely is okay for the third date?) Did he lose his first wife in a car accident that left him with brain trauma (yet he talks fine and seems fine)? Try to check out his stories.
5. Great sex--Everyone wants great sex, but those who have been with a psychopath often say it's the best thing they've ever experienced. A psychopath goes out of his way to please you. It's just another way of getting you hooked. Once he has you hooked, you'll find yourself begging for sex because he suddenly won't want it anymore.
6. Cracks in the mask--A psychopath will sometimes blurt out something odd about himself. Like you might be cooking dinner and suddenly he blurts, "I'm crazy you know." Or "I'm cheating on you." He will then either deny he said it or play it off as a joke. A form of keeping you off balance but also possibly an unconscious slip of the mask of his persona.
7. Silent treatment--Once psychopaths have you hooked, they begin to devalue you. The first step is to give you the silent treatment over something. Psychopaths are also known to disappear for days at a time. The silent treatment and disappearing act will be laid at your feet. In reality, he is off sizing up his next target somewhere.
8. Triangulation--Psychopaths love to work you up into a state of obsessive frenzy, so to do that, they idealize you, give you fabulous sex, and then begin pulling away and "triangulating." This is when they introduce other people into the mix to make you jealous. It could be an ex-wife or ex-girlfriend, a friend of the same sex, or even a celebrity. In the psychopaths mind, everyone else wants him, so you better be on your best behavior, or he will move on to one of his adoring fans.
9. Discard--The final phase of the psychopath is the "discard" phase. After he sucks you in, then devalues you, he will suddenly discard you as if you never had a relationship. You are suddenly completely worthless to him. He will usually move on to another target at this point.
10. "Hoovering"--Although a psychopath will discard you, he doesn't quite want you moving on either. If he senses you are done with him, he will suddenly do an about-face, and begin bombarding you with pleas to stay together. He will try to "Hoover" (named after the vacuum cleaning company) you back in by saying everything you've ever wanted to hear, making a million promises, and suddenly being on his absolute best behavior. It's all an act so he can get you back into the fold. The only way to get rid of a psychopath is to completely go no contact.
A Frisco, TX elementary school is causing quite a ruckus by throwing a "winter party" that bans mentioning Christmas and the colors red and green.
Even though the state passed "The Merry Christmas Law" back in June that allows schools to use "Merry Christmas", "Happy Hanukkah," etc….the school sent out strict guidelines banning the word Christmas.
An email was sent out to the school staff about the party that said:
1) No reference to Christmas or any other religious holiday
2) No red/green or Christmas Trees
3) Nothing that will stain the carpet (red juice, dark colored icing, etc.)
The PTA said they didn't want to "offend any families, since each family donates money. They feel this is the best policy…"
The website, CouchSurfing.com, connects people in need of a couch with willing hosts, but it turns out that many of these hosts are also getting lucky.
Couchsurfing is available in 100,000 cities across the globe, and it's becoming the go-to hookup app for a certain class of young world travelers.
Aside from blogs that write about how to spot a "slutty CouchSurfer," there's a website called CouchBangs.com where couch surfers can share their sexual experiences.
One man says that he has slept with 5 of the 8 women that he's hosted in his home, while another man blogged, "I simply do not know of an easier way for a guy to get laid with exotic women in exotic countries. Long live Couchsurfing!"
A Oklahoma man was busted following delivery trucks around town and stealing packages from front porches just after they were delivered.
A guy caught a man on camera who was stealing a package from his front porch. He posted it on Facebook hoping to identify the crook.
The crook's daughter recognized him and turned him in. She told cops he had stolen several packages the same way, by following the delivery truck and then taking them shortly after they were delivered.
1. Prowlers: Cruise the lot searching for a space close to the store entrance — even if it requires refueling before finding one.
2. Hikers: Head straight for the outer reaches of the lot, figuring it's faster than hunting for a close spot, although it can mean what seems like a 3-mile hike to the entrance.
3. Stalkers: Scan the lot for a shopper heading back to a car, then follow the person and snag the spot when the driver pulls out.
4. The Standoff: Two drivers pull up to an open spot at the same time. Don't mess with that soccer mom in the Sienna hopped up on Starbucks.
5. Parking Lot Limbo: You drive down a row and see a person behind the wheel of a parked car, and wonder: Is the driver ready to pull out, or did he just pull in? Were those brake lights or back-up lights? Is there any place in the mall to buy wine?
6. The Grand Illusion: You spot from a distance what looks like an open parking space, but when you drive up you realize it's a handicap spot or there's a small car you couldn't see. You suddenly decide your brother-in-law doesn't deserve a new pair of pleated Dockers.
1. Anything knitted by anyone:
…it's impossible to throw out gifts when this much time and effort have been put into them.
2. Family heirlooms:
…the only way to get rid of these is by dying.
3. Especially if that something "survived the war":
…forget about it.
4. Something with a kid's handwriting on it:
…letters don't look cute forever.
5. Handmade art by kids:
…double attachment points.
6. Decorations "that would go so well in your place":
…be prepared to always have that hanging up whenever the gifter visits.
7. A personalized coupon book:
…you have no choice but to spend these or hide them in your sock drawer for a hundred years.
8. Someone's self-portrait:
…throwing it away is like throwing them away. Nope. Keep it forever in a special place under a million stacks of paper on your desk.
9. Pets (NOT THAT YOU WOULD EVER WANT TO)
…because they are for life and forever adorable.
…as long as you have flesh, this gift is gonna be around.
11. A poem written especially for you.
A Georgia man has to pay his ex-fiance $50,000 because he didn't go through with his wedding proposal.
The court ruled in favor of the woman who sued her former fiance for fraud and breach of promise to marry.
The two were living together and had been engaged since 2004. The woman found out her fiance was dating another woman behind her back and kicked him out.
1. Include a clear, direct subject line--Examples of a good subject line include: "Meeting date changed," "Quick question about your presentation," or "Suggestions for the proposal." People decide whether to open an email based on the subject line. Choose one that lets readers know you are addressing their concerns or business issues.
2. Use a professional email address--If you work for a company, you should use your company email address. But if you use a personal email account -- whether you are self-employed or just like using it occasionally for work-related correspondences -- you should be careful when choosing that address. You should always have an email address that conveys your name so that the recipient knows exactly who's sending the email. Never use email addresses that are not appropriate for use in the workplace.
3. Think twice before hitting "reply all."--No one wants to read emails from 20 people when it has nothing to do with them. They could just ignore the emails, but many people get notifications of new messages on their smartphones or distracting pop-up messages on their computer screens. Refrain from hitting "reply all" unless you really think everyone on the list needs to receive the email.
4. Use exclamation points sparingly--If you choose to use an exclamation point, use only one to convey excitement. People get carried away and put a number of exclamation points at the end of their sentences. That can appear too emotional or immature. Exclamation points should be used sparingly in writing.
5. Be cautious with humor--Humor can easily get lost in translation without the right tone or facial expressions. In a professional exchange, it's better to leave humor out of emails unless you know the recipient well. Also, something that you think is funny might not be funny to someone else. When in doubt, leave it out.
6. Know that people from different cultures speak and write differently--Miscommunication can easily occur due to cultural differences, especially in the writing form when we can't see each other's body language. Write your message depending on the receiver's cultural background or how well you know him. A good rule to keep in mind is that high-context cultures (Japanese, Arab or Chinese) want to get to know you before doing business with you. So it may be common for business associates from these countries to be more personal in their writings. On the other hand, people from low-context cultures (German, American or Scandinavian) prefer to get to the point quickly.
7. Reply to your emails -- even if the email wasn't intended for you--It's difficult to reply to every email message ever sent to you, but you should try to. This includes when the email was accidentally sent to you, especially if the sender is expecting a reply. A reply isn't necessary, but serves as good email etiquette, especially if this person works in the same company or industry as you.